Saving a relationship is one of the most important things a couple can do in life, especially if they love one another. But it requires a solid commitment, and there are no guarantees that you can make it work, even if you put forth the effort. But if you can get back on solid footing, it is entirely worth the effort!
Don likes to begin couples counseling sessions with one question for both parties: "If you were to see your relationship as a potted plant on the floor in front of you, how would it look? What condition would it be in?" The answer to that question can be very telling! It doesn't really matter how it looks, as long as it is still hanging on to life and the couple agrees that it is worth the effort to see if it can be brought back to health.
If this turns out to be the case, then the couple has made it over the first hurdle in healing their relationship. They have made a decision to do their best to turn it around. Once the decision and commitment are made, the healing can begin.
In Don's Thawing Toxic Relationship Online course, there are four sections. Each section consists of multiple lessons, each lesson consists of a video, sometimes with worksheets, and always with detailed instructions.
Section One: Stop the Bleeding!
Section Two: Assess the Condition of Your Relationship
Section Three: Apply First aid, (also known as skill-building)
Section Four: Co-Create a Healthy Relationship
A Brief Sample of the Lessons:
Introduction: Separateness & Connectedness, Distance & Pursuit; Ego-State Functioning, Punishment/Forgiveness Cycle, The Chemistry of Drama
Exploring Your Developmental Stages: Assessing the Development of Psychological Positions & Relationship Styles
Infatuation & Identification vs. True Intimacy: Why We Hurt the Ones we Love: Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, and Contempt
Psychological Sweatshirts: Examples of Mixed Messages & Relationship Polarities
Structuring Time & the Three Hungers of the Inner Child Structure Hunger, Stimulus Hunger, & Position Hunger
Games We Play: Complimentary & Crossed Transactions
Distorted Perceptions &Payoffs for Playing Games: Some Classic Mind Games, Moves, and Payoffs
Are You Living Life in Reaction? Is Your Partner Friend or Foe? - Stop Treating Each Other Like an Enemy
NOTE: Find a journal to keep notes as you go through each lesson. If you do not already have one, find a journal you are comfortable recording your thoughts and feelings about what stands out to you is critical. I like the Free Online Penzu Journal.
Full 30-Day Refund guarantee: If any of the books do not work on your device I will return the purchase price for all of the books, no questions asked.
Thawing Toxic Relationships is the fourth release in Don's Thawing the Iceberg Series (Sept 2018). The most recent release was Thawing the Spirit (Mar 2023). The books include. Thawing the Iceberg Online Bundle includes ONLINE COURSES for each of the six books in the series.
Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings
Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome
Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues
Thawing Toxic Relationships
Thawing the Spirit - Blending Science with Spirituality From a Biblical Perspective
About the Author
An Integrative Psychotherapist and recovered alcoholic/addict, and author of the bestselling Thawing the Iceberg Series, Don Carter MSW, LCSW wrote Thawing Addiction as a way of paying forward his personal, professional, academic, and spiritual blessings. Serenity Cafe Recovery Center is the online companion for The book. Don holds advanced certification and experience in the treatment of trauma, Complex PTSD, attachment wounds, mood disorders, addictive disorders, and relationship issues.
In personal recovery himself, Don has accumulated over thirty-five years of specialized training and experience in the use of clinical hypnosis, ego-state therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, and other complementary forms of psychotherapy,
Uniquely qualified to help others find the gift of recovery,
Don shows readers the specific traps and how to cope. In 1986 he completed a 28-Day Inpatient treatment program to begin his journey, In 1994 he became the manager of an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) for 8 years before going into private practice.
What Else Can Members Expect:
How the emotional wound of abandonment, the emotional infection of shame, and the emotional scab of contempt creates a counterfeit "False-Self."
Key Relationship Skills: Communication & Ego-State Functioning, Parts-Language vs I-Language
How and Why to Speak FOR Your Protectors - Not FROM Your Protectors
How to Analyze Your Transactions: Analyzing Communication, Feelings & Emotions
Members can sign-up for individual and small group coaching for an affordable, discounted fee.
Members can attend regular Q&A coaching calls and webinars at Serenity Cafe Live!
Serenity Cafe Live!
It has been Don's vision to grow an online Intensive Recovery Coaching Programand community including small group coaching sessions for various kinds of addictions, codependency, and Adult-Child Syndrome.
Through Serenity Cafe Live! Don will personally facilitate regular Q&A coaching calls, small group coaching, and live webinars for all Serenity Cafe Members, some for free and some for an affordable, discounted fee (For more information contact Don at firstname.lastname@example.org)
Serenity Cafe Live! includes:
Live Q&A Coaching Calls & Replays
Live Webinars & Replays
Small Group Coaching Online
One-on-One Recovery Coaching Sessions
Online Recovery Rooms
NOTE: Serenity Cafe Live! does not replace professional therapy and treatment, but is a great supplement!